In everyone’s life there comes a time when things just don’t seem that great. That’s me putting it mildly. Actually, that ‘time’ is just too hard to handle. Everyone leaves you, you feel truly alone, with no one to trust or count on and with a mountain of struggle in front of you. I’ve gone through it, some of you must be going through it. But you can take it. Because you are stronger than you think.
Life is not a fairy tale. We don’t always get what we want. There is no karma. Bad things happen to good people. Bad people do bad things and face zero consequences. It’s okay, it’s life. Maybe it’ll get better, maybe not….but, you’ll always come out on the other side, a bit stronger.
The question that I can hear coming is ‘I don’t want to be stronger, why should I go through all that?’ I’ve got no one right answer for you. That’s life, you have to suck it up and move on. Some are lucky and have it easy, some are not.
An argument can be made that you’re better off than many people. To me that’s bullshit. You can be worse off too. ‘It could be worse’ is not a strong point and I am not advocating it here. I am here to tell you that even if you’re a good person, bad things WILL happen to you. Things will go south and ‘why is this happening to me?’ isn’t going to help you.
You have to take charge. Of your pain, of your life. Things don’t always stay the same. Life isn’t static. It changes. Maybe today you aren’t able to see that. Maybe you just lost someone close to you, maybe you’re struggling to keep food on the table for your family. I know I can’t understand what you’re going through and I don’t pretend that I do. But I can promise you this – things will change.
I am not saying that you shouldn’t feel sad about it, you should. Everyone should be able to be sad. You can’t stay happy every passing moment of your life. I just don’t want your current situation to be responsible for you losing to life.
As insensitive as I may sound right now, in time, you’ll be over it. You’ll heal and you should. There was a time when I clung to an unfortunate incident that happened to me. I let it define me. I was the guy with whom X happened and I had absolutely no problem with it, even after 2 years. There was this comfort, for the lack of a better word, in feeling that pain.
I’ve realized that after a while, pain becomes easy, comforting even. But what really takes strength is to overcome that pain, that pity, that prison, that you’ve built for yourself.
I feel that I’ve done that. And I am not special in any way. If I could do it, you can do it too. Fight through the pain, fight through the pity. It’s going to be bloody and messy and you would want to quit. But you just have to keep fighting, who knows, maybe you will win.
I didn’t want this article to be something about ‘reasons to be happy’ or that kind of crap. I understand life is hard, painful. But if reading this comforted you or at least made you feel that maybe you’re not so alone, then it’s a win for both of us, my friend.
Take charge of life, take it head on. You will be fine, you are stronger than you think.
You are stronger than you think.
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