So, it’s another year that’s going to bring another set of problems. Before you label me as a pessimist, let me remind you how you thought your 2018 was going to go. Yeah, remember it?
Anyway, there’s no shame in admitting that this year is going to suck too, for the most part. After all, what is life but a long journey that suck with moments of joy sprinkled here and there.
And besides, there is fun in making situations suck less. When you realize how bad things could have been had you not intervened and changed them. This is what we do, all the time.
But you have to admit that it’s hard work. And it takes a toll. That’s why I am going to tell you about 5 things not to do in 2019. It’s tough as is, why make it worse?
1. Argue unnecessarily on social media
Yes, I am going to start with this one. Now that we’re basically connected with some social media platform 24/7, it’s natural that we’ll have most of our conversations there. I am not going to lecture you about how being online all the time is unhealthy because we are way past that. But I am going to say this – Stop wasting time feeding the trolls, it just isn’t worth it.
Because today there are actually people out there who have nothing better to do but to shove their opinions down other people’s throats. They are crass, loud, hateful and most importantly, they have time. Arguing with them isn’t gonna be a ‘win’ for you, even if you make your point.
2. Let your opinion about something destroy your relationships
Piggybacking the first point, don’t be an idiot yourself. See, it’s good to have strong opinions about something. It’s great to have that opinion backed by facts. But proving yourself right at the cost of losing your relationship with someone close to you. Yes, if their opinion about something makes up their whole personality and if the opinion is borderline illegal or immoral, then it’s a problem.
But for the most part, people are not their single opinion. We are complex creatures. We are more than labels. Who cares if your friend or family doesn’t have the same political affiliation as you? Would you let it get in the way of your relationship with them? Seriously? An opinion about anything negates all the love and friendship you have with them? Are you that desperate to prove yourself right, to ‘win’?
3. Holding onto things hoping that they would get better
Pretty self-explanatory. We have been taught since forever that letting go is some kind of a weakness. Especially when it’s about relationships. Maybe movies are to be blamed. Listen, letting go is not a weakness or being selfish. Sometimes, it’s the right thing to do and you have to accept that.
I don’t care if it’s your crappy relationship, or your soul-sucking job or your toxic friend-circle or your abusive family, if it’s not making you happy and you have tried fixing it but failed every time, then it is simply not worth it. And I’m not saying quitting after one bad day or one argument. You know what I am talking about. You know of the situation where you feel helpless and disrespected but are too afraid to let go because of fear of loneliness, uncertainty or whatever. You know exactly what I am talking about.
4. Ignore your health
The biggest, the BIGGEST mistake that you could make this year is ignoring your health, again. You know half the crap in your life can be dealt with if you are in the right physical and mental condition. And when I say ‘Ignore your health’, I am talking about mental health too.
I don’t care if you go to the gym, start playing a sport or start learning a martial art, you just have to start moving. We have made our lives too sedentary, we have to start moving our muscles more often.
When it comes to mental health, take action immediately. If you feeling like depression, talk to someone. Find a therapist. No, it’s not a sign of weakness. That whole notion is utter crap. Don’t let the societal norms stop you from helping you.
5. Be a doormat
The last one and perhaps the most important one too. In my opinion, most people today are trying to please everybody, all the time. The need to please everyone and to get everyone to like you is hurting you and you only. People are going to use you till the end if you let them. I’ve read it somewhere – “You can lie down for people to walk on you and they will still complain that you’re not flat enough”
But that doesn’t mean to be a total jerk to everyone. No, be as good as you can be with everyone you meet. But don’t forget your boundaries. Boundaries that YOU have set for yourself. This is your self-respect we’re talking about here, you don’t f*ck with it.
That’s it. There is no earth-shattering knowledge here. In fact, there’s nothing here that you haven’t heard or read before. But I understand how difficult things can be. The last year was especially difficult but I pulled through. Don’t know what this year is going to bring though I am not too hopeful. I hope the list helps you, even a little.
Happy New Year.
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