A few days back, I wrote this article in which I touched about why our parents’ generation doesn’t like art that much. It got me wondering though; it’s not just about art. As a generation, there are so many ways in which we are different from our parents.
Most of us would like to say that we’re better, while some other aadarsh balaks with the Baghban virus may say that our parents’ generation is simply incapable of having flaws. I think it would be better to point out the differences first and then make a call. Heads up though, this may read like a massive generalization, and it is. But that doesn’t mean it is not true. Actually, read for yourself and then decide.
Let’s do this.
Our parents love authority. Love it. When it comes to authority or rather, authority figures, our parents are much less likely to question it. They give respect to the authority, fear it even. They’ll do things without questioning if it comes from a person that they regard as an authority figure. And when they themselves reach that place, they expect the same too. That’s why you can see so many parents (especially Asian parents) complaining that their children don’t respect them enough. That they ‘question’ too much.
It’s true. As a generation, we are more likely to question everyone, especially if someone is an authority. Because we need to know that apart from being older, what else credibility does the authority have. Most parents don’t like us questioning them, because they’ve never questioned their parents. What they don’t realize is that for us, questioning does not mean disrespecting the person.
I am not saying that we are lazy, but our parents’ generation is simply ahead when it comes to working hard. To do a task, our generation tends to find a way that takes the least effort, which can be a good thing as it opens the door to explore new ways. But let’s face it, more often than not, it causes delays. But our parents don’t shy away from hard work. It may not be the most time-efficient way every time, but they get it done. That’s one thing we can definitely learn from them.
This one is pretty relevant today. All the debates are about this, all major political discussions are about this. Our parents’ generation doesn’t like change, period. They don’t like trying new things, they don’t like breaking old norms, they don’t like reforming old rules and values; so that they can be made more suitable to the current times. They don’t like to change their beliefs. Well, no one does. But we as a generation, are more open to change. We don’t cling to our beliefs that hard. Whereas if you try to change our parents’ beliefs, they can turn hostile.
Our parents are very much part of this society. They also have this sense of ‘pride’ in a societal context. We don’t have that. We can’t care less about the society or what it thinks of us. But our parents can sometimes care more about other people than their own children. They judge others and that’s why people judge them. They also have this notion that other people have to play it by their rules. Which is why you see a lot of people in their mid-fifties judging people younger than them for their choice of clothes, sexual preference, political views, and even humor.
Patience is something we do NOT have. We live in a world without wait. We can’t wait for anything. We always need it now, not later. Our parents, on the other hand, have patience in an abundance. They can wait for things, without getting anxious – something that we as a generation is slowly forgetting. Even our technology is shaping us to become more impatient. We can’t watch >1-minute long video or a 500-word article (please read this one though). Our parents can do that with ease. That’s a really nice quality to have, in my opinion. It gives a sense of calm before taking a decision. Patience is really the key.
This may sound like I am piggybacking point number 1, but I believe it’s an entire criterion in itself. Of all the big talk that our parents do about respect, they have very little of it. Our parents’ generation mostly respect authority figures only. They don’t usually respect people who are younger and/or financially and socially weaker than them. The whole concept of ‘status’ is quite deep-rooted in their minds. They also don’t have any respect for other people’s opinions, if it’s something that they don’t agree with.
You have to give this to the parents. They have seen things that most of us can’t even imagine, and they still managed to hold the position that they do. This doesn’t mean that we are scared little snowflakes, it’s just that they have been through struggle – financial, emotional and societal struggle, from the very start. Their families were broken, they had little money (relatively), and many of them ran away from home when they were young. They also didn’t have this much convenience, they had lesser security, and yet they didn’t give up. They took it head on, and still managed to build empires.
Our parents really like the relationships in their lives, even when they don’t. ‘Family first’ is what they’ve always taught us. They consider relationships important, sometimes too much for their own good. Many of them are absolutely miserable with their relationships because they are afraid to let go. They have a hard time breaking relationships and letting people go, even if they are toxic. We, as a generation, are more open to that, if it means taking care of ourselves. But this can be bad too. While it’s good to think about ourselves, this very mentality is the reason behind weak relationships. We are more likely to leave a relationship than work on it. Our parents take care of relationships better than us.
This is perhaps the most important criterion of all. While others were more on an individual level, this one is more on a global level. Our parents’ greed has ruined us. It has ruined the system. Hell, it’s ruining the planet. Their greed for more money, more power, more control has made the world a ticking time bomb. I am not saying we are the most honest or selfless generation of people to ever walk the planet, but still, our greed pales in comparison to theirs. Their greed has butchered children, massacred people, destroyed countries, and killed the world. They can do anything to stay in power, even if it means killing their own humanity.
I know that I am oversimplifying things. People are more complex than mere 9 points. It’s also possible that I may be entirely wrong. After all, there are no facts here, just observations. If you disagree, let’s have a healthy discussion. Because some intelligent guy has just said that we are more open to ideas.
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